Relationship Dating: Leave Them Wanting More
In his autobiography, Tony Curtis recalled some valuable advice given to him by one of the icons of film Cary Grant. He told Curtis the best way to make the public want to see more of him was by making sure they didn't see too much of him.
Grant was of course relaying a message that many a producer and press agent before him tried to tell certain Hollywood movie stars. Some listened many didn't. The ones who did not, soon found that a public which had once adored them had now grown tired of seeing them. One too many bad movies and overexposure has ended many a career.
In relationship dating, the same rule applies. Sparks fly in the beginning as you and your date can't seem to get enough of each other. You spend everyday together including weekends. Multiple phone calls per day that last for hours. Meeting each other on your lunch break and hanging out after work. Let's not forget the internet where you constantly email and instant message each other.
And then it's over. Neither of you can figure out why you suddenly cannot stand the sight of each other. No doubt it can be any number of reasons but if familiarity can breed contempt then overexposure can make you downright hostile. No matter how good things are going, try to keep a few things in mind:
1. Talk To You Later
Unless you are in a space capsule orbiting the earth, you do not have to be in constant contact with mission control also known as your significant other. Calling or emailing once a day is enough (every other day is even better). People need time to digest information they receive and that includes being in a relationship. Contacting someone more than once a day may be cute in the beginning but after awhile it can lead to The Sigh. That's the one where your significant other takes a deep breath and asks themselves, "Now what do they want?"
2. Days Off
For many couples who are dating this is inconceivable. They feel it is vital to stay in each other's space so they can get to know each other better. The problem is getting to know each other better can quickly feel like smothering. You can't make a move without them breathing down your neck and vice versa. At first the two of you chalked it up to love. Time has a way of turning it into resentment.
3. Your Own Circle
The mistake many couples make is believing in the myth of one hundred percent compatibility and in the beginning of a dating relationship it may seem like just that. But it does not exist. There are going to be tastes and interests you have that your dating partner does not share. That's fine. It leaves the both of you more time to spend in your own social circles. That does not mean that you shouldn't take an interest in some things your significant other likes. It does mean that you do not have to share everything to have a successful relationship.
Dating relationships can be very deceptive. The tidal wave of wonderful emotions you both feel can pull you together; yet at the same time it can lead you down the path of breaking up. Enjoy each other's company but go slow and be sure to give each other plenty of breathing room. Getting too much of a good thing too fast only increases the chances of both of you growing tired of the relationship very quickly
Article written by Daryl Campbell - The Relationship Tip - There are a lot of do's and don't when it comes to the dating relationship. But it really comes down to finding the answer to just one simple question.
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Does he like me? Guys - what does it mean (Girls' opinions welcome too)?
First of all - I am a 21 year old college student and sadly inexperienced in the dating game, pathetic, I know.
Okay, so this guy is in choir with me. We are arranged to sit by each other and all through the semester we gradually become friends. He gave me a lot of side looks that always seemed to say more than he was saying verbally - if that makes sense. Anyway, he would always touch me accidentally. Arm brushes, body brushes, he would stand really close to me, if i had my legs crossed he would push the top leg off, etc - the body language is there. if he talked to anyone is was me and usually he spoke in my ear really quiet. he sometimes muttered stuff and when i asked him what? he would just saying nothing and smile at me. He also teases me a lot.
Okay, so our choir tours around to different performances and he always seemed to make sure we were in the same vehicle and he would sit by me - practically in my lap...anyway when he talks to me his voice is very soft and whenever I enter a room and we make eye contact his face kind of softens and he puts on this really cheesy but pleasant grin
I got his number from a mutual friend and texted him one night after a performance - he had to ride up separately so this time we were not together - and I was determined to tell him I liked him. It had been two months since I realized him and had starting flirting - the flirting seemed well received and reciprocated.
I never told him I liked him, but the texting resulted in some later night conversations (via text) that were random and ranged from him asking where I lived, if I lived alone, if I shared a room with my roommate...and one night I told him my roommate would be gone for the weekend and he asked if he could come over sometime to do homework. I think this homework may have been code word for something else considering we are in choir together and would have no mutual homework. Hard to tell since it was over text.
I am friends with his sister and she told me he had a tendency to be oblivious and I might need to be a little
aggressive with him.
Anyway.....HERE'S THE MOST IMPORTANT PART (incase you are skimming) After our last performance (weekend before finals) I asked him if he wanted to come over to hang out. It was 10:00 at night, he walked all the way across campus, in the winter...it was like 4 degrees outside...and we watched a movie and talked A LOT. He did a lot of the talking...and we managed to end up under a blanket - part of his craftiness i believe. We sat close together - same things: arms bumping, legs touching, him hitting me (playfully), he stared at me when we talked, he didn't really take his eyes off of me, etc. When the movie was over we just sat and talked for a while - It was like 2am by then - and suddenly he was like Let's try this and he put his arm around my back and laid me down on the couch and then crawled up behind - yes - spooning. We lay for a good 20 minutes just talking and snuggling...and then we got up and talked and just hung out some more...and then he left around 3 - he had to get up at 6 for church. and then i didn't talk to him for a few days because it was finals week. i saw him at in the CoHo one night and he gave me that same pleasant grin and we chatted a little while just about finals.......okay so - verdict - WTF is going on? He doesn't text me, but he'll usually reply if i text him and pick up if i call him (which i stopped doing because i'd rather talk about that night in person)....i am on winter break right now and haven't seen him for a month....is he clueless? Leading me on? Interested? We never talked about that night - is it too late to bring it up?
Should I make a move?? What should I do?
Oh! i don't know if this really matters, but the next time he got on facebook after that night he changed his looking for from a relationship, dating to just friendship - could this be a good or bad thing?
sorry this is so long, guys - but i appreciate the help!
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